Why can't women ever be comfortable in their own skin?
I was to meet a gal yesterday morning for coffee. How surprised was I when I was the first one there. Folks, that doesn't happen very often, me beating the other one. In fact it has never happened. Remember, I am the one who is "Tardy for the Party!"
I looked around to see if possibly she was tucked in some corner somewhere. I waited for about 15 minutes, then went outside to see if I had her number in the car. She is a mother of a boy in my son's class, so we are friendly within passing, but I don't have her number in my phone. I managed to get a hold of her and find out she was home sick with upper respiratory and double ear infections. Oooh, ouch, that doesn't sound like fun! Unfortunately she had left a message the day before telling me how sick she was and she couldn't make it. I just never got her message! She then starts saying, "Oh my gosh, are you standing there? I am so sorry you had to go all that way! I'm so sorry you didn't get the message, I feel so bad, I'll make it up to you!"
Whoa, hold up a second, I'm the idiot who didn't check the machine, so why is she apologizing? Please stop!
I was able to tell her to get back in bed and feel better! And that seriously I did not feel put out or bothered that I made the trip over there. You do not need to make it up to me I told her. Plus, I needed coffee anyway!
Then later in the day I got a call from a gal who I was planning on walking with while my daughter was in gymnastics class. She called to say she'd had a real crappy day and has too much on her plate, so she needed to cancel. I asked if she was ok and then said, "No biggie, lets figure something out for next week!"
She said, "Everything's fine but I hope you're not mad?"I said, "What, you're kidding me? I'm not about to get mad at something like this!" She then said, "You do too get mad!" I'm sitting on the other end of the phone just shaking my head because I was confused here. We aren't BFF's but I've know her for a while because our son's play football together and we sit by each other and cheer the boys on! She then started again with the you do too crap, and I just had to stop her mid sentence and I said, "Honey, I guess you don't know me well enough because I'm not mad! Again, are we 12 or 40? I mean, sure I'd get mad if she told me she couldn't walk and then she went walking with someone else and I saw them, duh, who wouldn't be miffed?
"Hello, McFly, anyone in there?"
I'm just starting to get to know this gal. Up until now, I have felt comfortable with her, but this was weird. I mean if this is how our relationship is going to be then I'm not sure if I want it! I seriously would not think to ask if someone was mad at me because I had to reschedule. Am I the rude one here because it wouldn't bother me? Can't a person cancel and reschedule if they need to without feeling like they need to check if the other will be mad at them? You need to do whats best for you right?
Never in a million did I hear my mother ask any of her girlfriends if they were going to be mad if she didn't do something, I mean WTF? It wasn't that she didn't care if feelings were hurt, but I get the feeling they were just more mature!
I am so annoyed and shocked by all the drama that goes on either around the neighborhood or in my kids schools. Don't you people have anything better to do. Go read a book or paint a table. I just want to say, "Well count me out, I'm so not interested!" La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, I can't hear you!
This is where I tell my husband how awesome it would be to be a man. I mean, guys can have a drop down, fist punching, kick in the groin match if either one pissed the other off and the next day they'd be good as gold. Not women, boy can they hold a grudge!
I'm thinking I want to take my little family and move somewhere desolate and hidden away, where its totally drama free but with plenty of chocolate, coffee and books!
I'm looking forward to a drama free day today! I think I'll go organize a closet or better yet, paint a table! Doesn't that sound heavenly?